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What women want?
Mrs. Mathangi, Singapore
As said by Dave Barry, what women want : to be loved to be listened to be desire to be respected to be needed to be trusted and sometimes just to be held.
Let me start with the name first? What is there is a name? Well some may say that it is unnecessary for women to tag father's or son's name and lose one's individuality while some may feel why not. In my opinion I feel that it is not the name factor that decides the individuality of woman; What matters more is the exposure she had to outside world, the way she was brought up, to be precise her personality. When I tell the way she was brought up, I agree with Andrea Dworkin in this matter to a certain extent.
'Woman is not born: she is made. In the making, her humanity is destroyed. She becomes symbol of this, symbol of that: mother of the earth, slut of the universe; but she never becomes herself because it is forbidden for her to do so.
So raising a girl child in the right way is important. The irony is that the question itself becomes null and void in countries where female foeticide prevails in some countries. Many documentaries and movies have been made to raise awareness in this matter. This is where education plays an important role.
What I observe about Indian women expatriates in Singapore, is that among women who come to work as domestic helpers with minimal formal education ( of course exceptions may be there) , women who come as students ( this is a healthy trend), women who are offered employment ( eg teachers on contract from India ) and married women whose spouses are either prs/employment pass holders) the women of today are more clear and specific about their goals than the women of yesteryears.
There are women here who prefer to not to be gainfully employed and those who like to. Though these appear to be the womens choice this differs from case to case. Interestingly irrespective of their financial status sometimes women are unable to opt out of their situation.
Nirmala Swami ( all names are changed) a first class engineering graduate who specialised in Electronics and Communication prefers to be a homemaker and is quite contented with her role and is the home tutor for her kids. Ponmani, an accountancy graduate juggles between home and office with two school going children. Janani, another engineering graduate who entered Singapore as a homemaker joined a firm and also enrolled herself to do her masters at NUS, successfully completed her course and upgraded her job not to mention her two kids who are in lower primary. Some work outside part time or are self employed.
Be a home maker or not women feel themselves more accountable and responsible not only with running the household but also the follow up they do day to day with their children's education, maintaining relationship with regular communication with relatives (hers as well as her spouse's) etc.
There is significant change in the attitude of men too though not in everyhousehold. Joint decisions should be made regarding matters like financial investment, loan, higher education of children etc. Matters like pregnancy, child rearing are some short comings for career oriented women but now they have managed to cope up with help from parents, domestic workers and make use of innumerable child care centres in Singapore. I even read once in Strait Times that a 24 hour child care centre and new born child care centre were upcoming!
Being a woman must not prevent a person not to achieve her goal.Coming back to again what women what just Read this
Dave Barry, what women want : to be loved to be listened to be desired to be respected to be needed to be trusted and sometimes just to be held.
I feel these feelings are natural for every human being.
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